Gifts play an important role in building the right relationship. To maintain warm and friendly relations, you should make presents just like that, and a gift from the mother-in-law, chosen with a soul, will please the daughter-in-law, prepare fertile ground for friendship and respect. What to please, what gift to present to the future daughter-in-law, will consider in this article.
Choosing a birthday surprise for a young wife of a son is not difficult if you know her hobbies and tastes. Otherwise, it is better to choose universal gifts, without claiming originality, because the preferences and wishes of the young daughter-in-law are still unknown.
What not to give
Surprises that can stun or frighten a girl will not work. Gold jelry with a diamond, a mink coat, a car — inappropriate offerings. And also not a very good surprise will be the proposed assistance in repairing the apartment of the future daughter-in-law. As a rule, when the mother-in-law takes over the repair, she does everything to her liking. This is already considered a violation of all personal boundaries of the future daughter-in-law. In no case should you offer such help — this will absolutely scare away the failed daughter-in-law.
Public congratulations from a hired orchestra or creative team is also not the best gift from the mother-in-law. You can immediately delete large household and kitchen appliances from gift offerings.
It is inappropriate to present a watch as a gift if the daughter-in-law is inclined to believe in folk signs. It is believed that they energetically affect the host. Or you need to “buy off” such gifts with coins, that is, accept the offering, and give the donor a certain small amount of small money.
It is undesirable to give and pets. There are several good reasons for this:
- instead of joy, pets can bring unnecessary trouble and cash costs;
- with such a gift, only close, native family members can guess;
- Responsibility for the life of a pet is not to everyone’s liking.
The best gift options
You need to give inexpensive gifts to your future daughter-in-law. In any case, the young girl of her son will like such things:
- dim umbrella - a necessary thing, always useful in the household;
- road beautician — an indispensable thing when traveling;
- jelry box or miniature figurines for jelry — rings, bracelets, chains are hung on them;
- mascot - a talisman for the home, family;
- robe for a bath;
- set of tols for the bathroom;
- hydro massager;
- certificate to the spa;
- coffee, tea, sets;
- aroma candles - will help not only create an atmosphere of comfort in the house, but also have a healing effect on the psyche.
It is reckless to give gift sets related to face and body skin care. This is individual. The fragrance of a perfume is difficult to guess. Only if the girl herself does not express preferences.
Universal and inexpensive gift offerings can show a good, kind attitude towards the future young daughter-in-law.
If the girl has already entered the family, then it is easier to recognize her needs. The gift in this case is chosen in accordance with the tastes of the birthday girl. It is not forbidden to give a daughter-in-law for her birthday:
- gold jelry - chain, earrings, ring, bracelet, pendant with a horoscope symbol or icon;
- small household appliances - iron, vacuum cleaner, food processor, multicooker, electric meat grinder, air humidifier;
- bed sheets;
- if a woman is driving, then you can present car accessories: snow brush, glass cloth, car fragrance;
- beautiful, stylish leather diary, briefcase, business card;
- certificate for cosmetic procedures;
- gift basket with a set of tea, coffee, sets, sets, fruits This will surely please the bride.
Surprises can be both material and spiritual. It can be tickets for a performance, concert, evening of rest.
If you plan to give your young daughter-in-law tickets to a camp site or a trip to the sea, then you definitely need to warn in advance, as people may have their own plans. Otherwise, such a surprise can put the daughter-in-law in an uncomfortable position.
The daughter-in-law will be pleased with a set of expensive high-quality dishes. Cutlery, especially silver, is also a necessary thing in the household. According to folk signs, one should not give a set of knives as a gift — this can lead to quarrels and troubles in the family.
A good gift from the mother-in-law will be a bouquet of flors. But an unusual bouquet, but original. Now there are many flor shops where they will make a wonderful composition of extravagant plants. If you know the preferences of the daughter-in-law, then you can choose flors taking into account the taste of a relative. A shapeless bouquet of country flors is not an option for a birthday present.
In addition to the bouquet, you can take a cute postcard and wish you health, happiness, love. Write everything by hand, and do not choose a postcard where there are already ready-made wishes.
If you know the daughter-in-law’s hobby, you can give a gift for this activity. It can be:
- embroidery kits:
- knitting accessories;
- decor sets;
- paints, brushes, canvases;
- sewing machine;
- knitting machine;
- casket for needlework;
- a book that matches the daughter-in-law’s hobby.
Handmade things are always original. They keep the warmth and good energy of the hands. Such a sign of attention suggests that the birthday girl is dear and loved, and the time and effort spent on the craft only confirms this. If the mother-in-law is an excellent cook, why not present a dish made by yourself. Although many girls talk about diets, they love sets and will be delighted with such a gift as a cake, unusual cookies, fruit baskets, muffins.
You can knit a cardigan, a cape, a pullover with the condition that the size of the daughter-in-law is known. Plaids, original rugs, bedspreads will be a good offering. A mother-in-law who has a lot of knitting experience can knit a beautiful dress for her daughter-in-law.
This option should be discussed in advance so that the gift does not gather dust in the closet, but becomes a really necessary thing in the wardrobe of the birthday girl.
You can also surprise your daughter-in-law with embroidery. Now it is fashionable to embroider with beads. The picture, embroidered with beads, will decorate any apartment.
A wonderful surprise for the daughter-in-law will be custom-made portrait painted on canvas by a real artist. Such a work of art will bring not only aesthetic pleasure, but also fill the whole house with positive energy.
The modern type of gift is a cash envelope. This offering is universal and will please any daughter-in-law, as sometimes it is difficult to please the taste and mood of a person.
An expensive gift from the mother-in-law can be the result of generosity, or it can be used as a means of manipulation. When accepting an unreasonably expensive offering, one should think about whether it was given with sincere sympathy or with the aim of embarrassing and obliging the donor. In any case, you need to know that gifts love “reciprocal gestures.”
If there is no way to repay “in the same coin”, you probably should not accept expensive offerings. You need to talk about this boldly and honestly with your mother-in-law.
Gifts from the sister-in-law
The brother’s sister is a sister-in-law, in most cases she maintains friendly or friendly relations with her daughter-in-law, and therefore is aware of her tastes and desires. It is easier for a sister-in-law to pick up a sign of attention for a future daughter-in-law, since they are usually on the same wavelength, they know all the latest in perfumery, creams, and fashion. What should not be given from the mother-in-law, then it is allod to give from the sister-in-law.
For example, a brother’s wife from a sister-in-law can be given:
- underar, if the relationship is trusting;
- body and face skin care creams;
- hair care kit
- a certificate for visiting a plastic surgeon, if the daughter-in-law herself discussed this option;
- fashion accessories: beautiful leather belt, clutch bag, bijouterie;
The right option for a gift is to go shopping with a young daughter-in-law, to pick up things that are really necessary and suitable for her.
Whatever the relationship beten mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, one should strive better for a bad peace than for a good war. To come to terms with the choice of a son, to accept a new person in the family.
The initiative in this case should come from the mother-in-law: small presents, sincere signs of attention will create favorable conditions for respectful, kind relations.
Undoubtedly, a gift from the mother-in-law should be from a pure heart, presented with joy. Most importantly, gifts should be accepted with sincere, kind gratitude in return. Even if the gift was not to your liking, you should not show it, because the giver can be more upset than the birthday person. In no case should you re-gift gifts, because it may happen that the gift will return after some time back to the giver, and this will be very ugly. Do not forget that giving surprises is just as pleasant as receiving.
If you don’t know what to give your daughter-in-law for her birthday, see the selection of original gifts later in the video.