Baptism is a religious ceremony that not many parents perform according to the canons according to traditions. Usually this celebration follows some general baptismal scenario, but far from everything is observed even in preparation for the ceremony. The choice of godparents does not always take place with an emphasis on the churching of the candidates, on their readiness to become the spiritual mentors of the godson. Often close relatives and friends become godparents.
Nevertheless, if for you christening is not just a tradition, an established rule, which is somehow inconvenient to avoid, it is worth considering all the details of the ritual. And godparents, too, should be taken seriously, attentively to their role as ll as to gifts.
Godparents have an honorable role on this day: they are called parents in the church sense of the word, they take on the mission of spiritual education of the godson. Nobody will remove this role from them, therefore it is worth considering whether you are ready for it. Traditionally, the godson is given a cross by his “new” parents. Nowhere is it written that it must be precious — such a requirement is inappropriate, it can only be a personal decision of the godparents.
To buy or not to buy a chain for christening? Usually there is no need for this, for the ceremony you need a strong thread and a cross, the chain is a decorative detail. The baby doesn’t really need it. There is no single decision who gives the cross, mother or father (godparents). Today it is increasingly a joint gift. If the baby’s parents already have a cross, which also happens, they need to notify the godparents about this. Before the start of the ceremony, the cross must be consecrated in the church, if you buy a product in a church shop — there is no such need.
And if there are no clear rules with the purchase of a cross, then the godfather usually pays for the baptismal ritual. Of course, parents should not interfere with the godparents’ agreement if they decide to split the expenses in half. This is only a tradition, not so indestructible that the payment of the rite had some special meaning. Moreover, it happens that the child does not have a godfather (there is only a godmother), in which case the ritual is sometimes paid for by the parents.
Kryzhma (today it is often replaced by a baptismal tol) is usually given to the child by the betrothed godmother. After the ceremony, the baby is wrapped in it, and then the roof is prescribed to be kept and protected. Sometimes you can hear the advice that a baptismal tol should be applied to the baby on sick days.
It was about traditional gifts, without which the ceremony actually does not take place. Attire for baptism can be prepared by relatives, godparents can also present — today this is not so important. But after all, gifts on this day are presented not only to a baby (or an older godson). For example, a husband can make a gift to his wife (the father of the godson — to the mother), because for her this is a significant day.
White flors will be pleasant, which will decorate the festive table later. An elegant scarf or shawl is also appropriate. Jelry for the wife — at the request of the husband himself.
Presents for a child
Everyone invited to baptism usually gives something to the baby. And this is not necessarily a thing related to religion, church topics. Although why not give the baby the first Bible on the day of baptism? If a child grows up in a churched family, a gift will definitely come in handy.
Consider what else you can give a child.
- Silver spoon. This is a traditional gift: in some families it is given at birth, but most often the present is presented at christening. Such a spoon may not have practical significance at all, but symbolically this gift is pleasant.
- Outfits. It is always appropriate, you can replenish the baby’s wardrobe, which his parents will appreciate. Epiphany is a bright holiday, and therefore the outfits may not be as practical as solemn. Light dresses, white shirts, elegant hats — all this will emphasize the solemnity of the event.
- Toys. For kids, development kits are suitable, and for older children, you can give something traditional — a bear, a doll. You can order designer toys that are made with a touch of vintage. Any kid is pleased to receive a teddy / velvet bear in a beautiful box and with a set of outfits. Girls will always be pleased with the classic doll.
But speaking of christening, do not always mean that the rite concerns children. People decide to go to church, and as adults, this decision is usually a conscious, thoughtful one. Godparents are no longer needed for such people, but this does not eliminate the need to congratulate a loved one on such an important event. On this day, an adult girl can be presented with white flors according to the season, it is always pleasant, and the day is really important, deserving such a compliment. Often, adults are given spiritual literature, icons, which is quite in the spirit of such an event. You can give the girl a dress or a skirt in which you can go to church, a shawl and a scarf.
A young man who has been baptized can be given a commemorative icon, a prayer book, a chain for a cross. In a word, it is absolutely useful to celebrate such an important day for a loved one with a gift, no matter at what age he came to this decision.
Adults rarely celebrate their own christening, but the gift is not tied to a feast, it’s just a sign of your attention.
Gifts for godparents
A return gift to godparents is also a tradition. Souvenirs with a Christian theme seem to be a logical choice. Figures of angels, embroidered textiles are the traditional choice in this case. Often they give icons to godparents, they bring them from holy places.
And a few more options for what you can give godparents.
- Hotels. Do not know what gift will please the godfathers, give sets. Get two small baskets, fill them with goodies. Sets, chocolate, cookies specially baked for this occasion, nuts, honey, jam — all this is appropriate and looks quite festive when properly decorated. If you put red wine in the basket of kumu and kume, it will not be overkill. Although focusing on alcohol, of course, is not worth it.
- white tols. This is not something traditional and primordial, but rather a small exchange beten the godson and the godparents. If they give the baby a baptismal tol, then the parents can present the same gift to the godparents. White is the color of purity, the beginning, and in fact for the intended parents today is a special day, the beginning of feeling in a new role. Therefore, a white terry tol can become a symbol of some kind of renewal.
- outfits. It is quite appropriate if such gifts do not seem superfluous to you. You can give the godfather a new shirt (in which you can visit the temple), and the godmother — a dress. If you have chosen relatives as godfathers, such gifts are lcome.
- Candles and candlesticks. Often all this can be bought in church shops.
- Napkins and tablecloths made by hand. If you really, anxiously await baptism, begin to prepare for it in advance. And a good gift for godfathers will be tablecloths or napkins, paths for the festive table that you will knit (embroider) yourself. This is indeed a precious and unique gift.
But the main gift is still an invitation to a gala dinner in honor of the christening (if you arrange it, of course). If you wish, you can issue invitations, hand them in advance. You can arrange lunch at home, you can in a restaurant, you can outside the city — all options are worth considering, there are no strict rules here either.
If you are arranging a holiday at home, for all guests, without exception, you can prepare in advance small bags (boxes, bags) with treats that they will take home. As a rule, sets, cookies, fruits, nuts are placed in such bags, dessert jars of honey and jam can be used.
The packaging itself should indicate the reason for the festive dinner and, in fact, treats. This rule is optional, but its implementation speaks of your attention, care for each guest, of a sincere desire to please and share your joy.
What can be done with your own hands?
If in your family, in your surroundings, it is customary to give gifts made with your own hands, this is wonderful — you can only envy. And christening is an occasion to continue the tradition. This is a very intimate holiday, delicate, tender, because money in envelopes and certificates for specialized stores, although they will not be superfluous, do not go ll with the very mood of the christening.
You can make a lot of useful things with your own hands as a gift.
- Beanies. If the child is still small, he most likely has a whole set of hats — for different ather, and for different outfits. Today, there is a whole fashion for baby hats: often these are retro models in which children resemble gnomes. Even not the most experienced knitters can knit such products. Present a whole set of hats to your baby — two light ones, two warmer ones. You can’t buy hats like this anywhere! Nice gift for granddaughter from grandma. By the way, with good work, it can be inherited.
- Chair for babies. If grandfather is a real master, then he will surely be able to master such a design as a high chair. This will be a very valuable gift from grandfather, personalized. By the way, the project can be a family project: grandfather makes a wooden structure, grandmother paints and decorates it. A truly exclusive gift!
- Commemorative toys. If someone in the family makes interior dolls, toys, then it is foolish not to use such a talent for a gift to a child. Not all such toys are meant for fun, but symbolically they are beautiful. Textile bears, hares and chanterelles will decorate the baby’s room and will be a cute reminder of the christening day. Very often they make such aroma toys: in the stomach of a hare or a bear, a bag is sewn up, for example, with lavender or a mixture of soothing herbs. If the toy is placed next to the baby’s crib, it can help him fall asleep.
- Holiday sets. A good gift if a special dessert is missing for a christening dinner. You can directly ask relatives or friends who are skilled at making sets to give you a set of holiday cupcakes, gingerbread cookies, make a cake or a pie.
- Room decor. Another practical idea is that if the mother of the child calls her friends for christening, as a gift she can ask them to festively decorate the room where the gala dinner will be held. In order for this day to pass without a hitch, so that everything around corresponds to the solemnity of the event, the appropriate decor will definitely not be superfluous.
- Photoshoot. If one of the guests at the christening, as you know, is a photographer, ask him to give you a photo session. Small, modest, but still it will be a good memory of an important event. And you will not be worried about the thought that the holiday has passed, and you have not had time to take “normal photos”.
- Bed linen sets. Today, more and more often, skillful relatives make blankets, sheets, pillowcases for a baby in a crib. The choice of materials is huge, and you can always learn how to sew. This is a useful gift, beautiful, definitely necessary for the baby.
- Commemorative cross-stitch. Many craftswomen today sew to order work with some beautiful image and skillfully embroidered with the date of baptism and the name of the child. Then the embroidery is placed under the frame, and it decorates one of the walls of the house. Those who are ll versed in needlework can cope with such work.
There are a lot of ideas, it all depends on the creative direction where you are really strong. If you are decorating surfaces, you can make a beautiful box where the baby’s curls, the first pacifier and the first fallen tooth will be stored.
Or you can make a box for documents (so that the birth certificate of the child, baptism, and some other certificates are not lost in the general pile of documents).
What do guests give?
If the guests directly ask the parents what to give the child, this is often the best scenario. But if there re no clear wishes, you will have to think for yourself. Giving money is the easiest thing to do, but you need to be sure that it will be accepted. The fact is that not all families consider it normal to give money. And formally, this is the correct opinion: after all, there is nothing easier than getting a couple of bills out of your wallet and putting them in an envelope. It is much more difficult to go shopping, choose a gift, pack. And if you do it with your own hands, it really takes work, time, and effort.
But if there is a convention about a financial gift, then you can respond to it. The amount of gifts depends on your capabilities and ideas about how much, in principle, they give for the holiday.
Some people are sure that christening is a holiday more important than a birthday, and the amount of the gift is also growing. But if the parents are intelligent people, they will not evaluate your gift by its value.
What, besides money, can guests give:
- toys — the first thing that comes to mind when it comes to a small child;
- kids outfits — advise you to give things a little for growth;
- books — a true Christian for knowledge and education, therefore even a very small child can be presented with a book (will appreciate it in the future);
- equipment, devices, gadgets – from strollers and playpens to baby monitors and air humidifiers (very practical and convincing gifts);
- certificates for children’s stores — quite in the spirit of the times, and not money in kind, and some choice for parents;
- bathing sets — today they are so beautiful, diverse, that not only the baby will be interested, it is difficult to resist and not buy.
If you are going to the christening, support the festive mood of your loved ones: give the baby’s mother flors, dress smartly, let everything on this day glorify its main event, let it bring you even closer.
It is very important that along with the gift you give your loved ones your attention — if the baby goes to the arms, babysit him, give the young parents a little rest.
And do not forget that your loved ones need this attention not only on holidays, and that christening is a starting point, the beginning of the path.
For information on what to give a child for christening, see the following video.